Why I am not afraid to say I LOVE YOU?

 

Because I believe, that…..

Time is my enemy. It runs so fast. No matter what I do to stop it for a while, it won’t.

I know we’ve reach the stage of human evolution where everything could happen in a snap of a finger. If you want to talk to a person who is miles away, call them. If you want to see their face, you can use skype. If you want to know their day to day activities, the food they ate, the places they visited, check out their facebook account. If you want to know how they feel at the moment, follow their twitter. We no longer have to give our best efforts to show how we really feel. We no longer write a love letter, or a simple note. Technology makes everything possible and fast, which makes us forget the things that we should be doing instead of using FB, Instagram, Skype, and other media account. 

I noticed, today, especially on young ones, (not because I’m too old), they no longer say the most important words that they should tell to the people whom they really care. For them, “I love you” is a corny word. Or otherwise, they would use the word in a very shallow reason. They don’t really feel it at all. For me, “I love you” is a sacred word. You should say it to those that really matter to you, not just to the man you love or the girl you want, but especially to your family. Everyone should know that these words could brighten some gloomy day of someone. Hence, I believe that we should always take the advantage of saying it. Say the words to your aging mom and dad, to your fast growing kids, to your busy siblings, to your naughty nephews and nieces, to your best friends and to the one you really love.  It shouldn’t be just used to compliment girls or just for the sake of saying it. When you say it, make sure you really feel it, not just using it for fun.

I LOVE YOU. I am neither afraid nor ashamed to say it, but only to those I really love. Why? Well, why not? I love them, I care about them and they should know it and they should feel it. I don’t want to regret not saying the words when I should; aside from letting them feel that I love them. Time is running, and whether I like it or not, time will pass by. Every second is important for it will never come back. Time will never stick around, it will always shift, and before you know it, you are running out of time already. So grab every opportunity. Seize every moment. Capture every second. Say the words, before the words run out of you.

Time…you can never borrow or turn it back. So say the words! :)

P.S. I love you.

The Act of Lending

The Act of Lending

We have reached the era when everyone wants to acquire things for free. We enjoy it; we take advantage of it. Hence, most company sell items with big discounts and offer a buy 1 take 2 promo. Honestly, I always check and buy stuff which is on sale so I could maximize my budget. That thing is mine, but what if I just borrow it; it doesn’t belong to me yet, right? I had some experiences when someone would borrow my stuff without even bother of returning it. When I lend something to someone, it goes with an expectation that it will be returned to me since it’s still my property, except if it’s my sister, I know it will never come back, we have that attitude, but that applies to us only, (I normally do that do them actually. ) Anyway, when I lend some of my stuff to someone, I do expect that it will be returned, it should be isn’t it? The same is true if I’m the borrower, I always make sure that I return it. It’s a matter of self respect and respect to the person who lend you. They trust you enough to let you have the thing that they desire. It’s just right for you to return it to the true owner. Remember, it was lend, not give, it differs.  I checked Merriam-Webster about the meaning of “LEND”, and below is what I found:
 
Lend : -to give (something) to (someone) to be used for a period of time and then returned
            -To give (money) to someone who agrees to pay it back in the future
            -To make (something) available to (someone or something)

Upon reading this, I tried to jot down some things to remember when lending or borrowing item.

·         Give yourself enough respect to return things that you borrow. That is not yours to keep. It belongs to someone else, well, in this case, to the real owner.

·         When you borrow something, make sure to take care of it, remember, it’s not yours.

·         Borrowing is legal, losing it is Illegal; I suppose, but not to the extent that you will be thrown in jail. But you know what you’ve lost when that happens? Trust and in some cases, friendship.

·         If by instance, you accidentally lost it, be courageous enough to tell the owner. She/he deserves to know. (I do.)

·         If you like the borrowed item very much but you cannot afford to buy it for yourself, do not just simply keep it.  Ask the owner politely, who knows s/he might give it to you, but if it happens that the owner refuse to give it away, don’t feel bad, it’s the owner’s right to say so. In my case, (I seldom borrow), and if it happens that I really like the item, I would save some penny so I can buy it. It’s better that way I guess.

·         In borrowing, the lendee has no right to lend it to someone else; you’re not playing basketball here. Only the lender has that right, not a borrower.

·         In borrowing, a borrower/owner relationship exists, and there should be a timeframe on when the borrowed item should be returned, the borrower has to comply with it.

·         Just like any other relationship, in borrower/owner relationship, respect and trust are the most important thing that you have to consider. Respect the trust given to you by the owner.

·         The owner has the right to take her/his stuff from the borrower if it’s not being taken care of.

·         The borrower has the right to request for an extension of returning the item if s/he is not yet finish using it..but.

·         The owner has the right to say NO if s/he thinks that the item has been out on the borrower’s possession for long.

·         In borrower/owner relationship, an agreement exist, either written or verbal, both weigh the same, therefore, both parties should respect it.

P.S. to the owner: Please trust the borrower, if s/he ruins your trust, then; just don’t let it happen again. (I know that kinda sucks!)

Note to the borrower: If you cannot follow those words written above, brace yourself because you do not deserve the right to borrow anything from anyone. 

Please be reminded, if you have a reputation of not a good borrower, no one will trust you.  It will affect your status in a group where you belong, and you will have a negative effect on people around you.
Any thoughts?